If you wait, she may suspect and later think you were keeping it from her deliberately; at this point she will know all those signs. He made me a better person because he had already worked through his problems and just wanted to live a good life. I've never met anyone, myself included, who became a drug addict or alcoholic because they were coping well and emotionally healthy. I'm now newly retired, but strangely I nrver experienced subsequent happiness. I'd be mindful though of not getting triangulated with her and her relative if she sees you as an "expert" or something on recovery. I'd say something like "I am actually sober through the help of AA. He will be mine.
From what he and his long term friends told me about his drinking days, this guy was DEEP into drinking and drugs.
Dating a Recovering Alcoholic
She was perfectly ok with you telling her you do not drink because you feel better that way. It's all about them when they're using and it's still all about them when they're sober. Why does every gay I know in aa chainsmoke? In particular, if she has experiences with alcoholism in her family, I imagine she's more attuned to these types of things than your average person. If it's going to bother her it's going to bother her As well as the usual things people want, like intellect and a sense of humor.